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“[Genuine, validating, honest, personal] attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” Simone Weil
"But then a funny thing happened: we began to prefer the diminished substitutes."
"it’s easier to check in without becoming entangled. To avoid the emotional work of being present, to convey information rather than humanity. Over time, we, too, become diminished substitutes. We often use technology to save time, but increasingly, it either takes the saved time along with it, or makes the saved time less present, intimate and rich . . . further . . . from our hearts. Everyone is always in need of something that another person can give, be it undivided attention, a kind word or deep empathy. There is no better use of a life than to be attentive to such needs. There are as many ways to do this as there are kinds of loneliness, but all of them require attentiveness, all of them require the hard work of emotional computation and corporeal compassion."
"We live in a world made up more of story than stuff. We are creatures of memory more than reminders, of love more than likes. Being attentive to the needs of others might not be the point of life, but it is the work of life. It can be messy, and painful, and almost impossibly difficult. But it is not something we give. It is what we get in exchange for having to die."
By JONATHAN SAFRAN FOER
See entire article here - "How not to be alone."
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